Why it sucks to be stuck in the wrong job ...and how to escape
Updated: Mar 2
My second last job was rubbish. I genuinely wasn’t enjoying it. Sure the money was good and the people were nice, but I was not really happy.
It took me a while to figure out why.
There were two things missing.
Firstly I didn’t have autonomy, I didn’t get to do things my way. This is bizarre as I actually had 17 years experience in the field but my boss was treating me like I had less than 5. Secondly I didn’t have any opportunity to grow or learn anything new. It was basically the same job I had been doing for those 17 years but doing it according to someone else’s approach.
Well probably there were more than two things wrong as I have changed career completely now but these two things which would have made all the difference at the time. As I said it was rubbish…anyway now I coach. I coach taking action, I coach career change and I coach people how to invest in personal growth. It is amazing how when you are in a situation like the one I described above you can get down on yourself. You judge yourself through the eyes of others. Why wouldn’t you though. We all want to be people pleasers at the end of the day. We all want our seniors to be happy with how we do things however poor they might be at giving us the freedoms and opportunities we need to be motivated, connected and to develop. For me it wasn’t until I moved on that I truly remembered what I was capable of, what I had to offer, and how valued I could be.
So when we are in it, we get up everyday, do the home stuff, get to the office and we try try try to be motivated, to be connected, to find the way through. We are stuck though we are missing stuff we actually need to be the best version of ourselves.
So what can you do? How can you escape? How can you get the connection, motivation and recognition you deserve? Well my friends that is a bloody good question..
I will tell you what I have to offer right now on this and I hope it gives you a start. There are a few things that you can do and the first is get out a piece of paper and write some ideas down.
Start to think bold. Ask yourself what you want, what you could be doing, what you care about and are interested in. What your values are and whether you are living true to them. Ask yourself whether the company you are working for is a net giver to or taker away from humanity?
Start to understand yourself better. Brainstorm a bunch of stuff on a piece of paper, write down everything you want and ask yourself how you might realise some of it Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself any imperfections and take some time to remember everything you have achieved in the last 10 years, everything you have dealt with and overcome, how strong you actually are! Start to act bold, talk to recruiters, do your CV, go for an interview. No one needs to know and what have you honestly got to lose? Jobs aren’t for life any more, careers aren’t even for life any more.
Perhaps I am not alone and you also are ready for a career breakthrough?
Send me an email if you want to find out more about my career change support: firstname.lastname@example.org